Going forward, regardless of format, I think there has to be some punishment for people who replace out/flake. We can definitely keep track of when anyone replace outs - what should we do with this information? Should we take into account reasons?
Crazy ideas are welcome. Examples:
If you replace out 2 times you’re not allowed to join anything else unless you make a public apology.
Publicly shown badge of dishonor.
Annoying popups that somehow bother people who’ve replaced too much.
Times can possibly be expanded into replace out sessions (i.e. if someone replaces out of 5 games at the same time it count as 1 session). Not sure which makes more sense, there are pros and cons to both.
I think there should probably be a distinction between replacing out and being kicked out—if you’re kicked out for low activity, you shouldn’t have joined in the first place. If you have to ask out…well, life happens sometimes, and at least you let the GM know. That’s not nearly as bad to me, and shouldn’t carry the same stigma.
My own personal rule as a GM is that if someone has to be kicked out for low activity, I warn them before the next time they join a game of mine…and if it happens again, I don’t let them join future games of mine until they’ve proven themselves elsewhere or I have a compelling reason to.
However “life happening” too often is often just a sign of poor planning, yeah? Or that in general whatever life isn’t one that’s well suited for multi-day commitments.
The problem with this is that it puts the onus on the players/mods to check the points. Unless we make it painfully obvious how often will people actually check?
If you are worried about visible numbers or points. Maybe keep them hidden in profile but have the names viewed with different colors that reflect the scale of your score?
I mean…it depends a lot on the communication between player and GM. If the player tells me in advance something like “I really want to play, but I’m not sure of my schedule next week,” I’m a lot more willing to work with that than someone who just drops off the map.
And yeah, if it happens in 5 straight games, then they probably shouldn’t keep signing up, but I’m much more forgiving of and willing to give leeway to someone making a good faith effort not to ruin a game than someone just disappearing.